My interview with The Orange County Register

You can read the full interview I had last week with The Orange County Register, along with photos and a happy couple’s story of how I introduced them.  They are now on their third year of marriage and a second child on the way.

Read it all here: http://www.matchbyjulia.com/OCR/people-502948-know-someone.html

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Singles and Matchmaking in Southern California

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My new website is up and running for all Singles in the Los Angeles and Orange County area.  If you are single and would like to be placed into my database, or become a client please visit my website: matchbyjulia.com to get further information.

If you are looking for Love and tired of online dating, give my traditional and personalized matchmaking a try.

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I look forward to helping you find a partner in life!

Jewish Men Don’t Cheat! Ha! And Ashley Madison is a Dating Site!

Ever since Tiger Woods slipped and unleashed a fury onto himself, every woman out there has been asking the same question: “How could he?  Why would he?”  Then, Jesse James, a.k.a. Mr. Sandra Bullock followed in suit, not to mention countless government officials; gay or straight.  And as of this week, our ex-Governator Arnold Schwarzenegger admitted to having an affair with his household staffer, and this is where it gets even better, even fathering a child with her!  Not only was he dumb enough to have the affair, but obviously even dumber for getting her pregnant…

So, how could they all do that?  I’ll tell you how they could:

1. They are all men.

2. They all men who have power and money.

3. They are human.

No I am not condoning cheating, however what I am saying is that unless you are in that relationship, you don’t know all the details, arrangements, etc.  Therefore, you can’t judge.  How do you know that Maria Shriver isn’t an annoying, complaining bitch who never puts out?  How do you know that they didn’t have some kind of an agreement, only to be ruined when Arnold slipped up and got the woman pregnant…  Who knows what went on with Tiger and his wife, or the reasons for his affairs.  Maybe there were none, he traveled a lot, needed a release, wife was not around, had money, and cheated…  Who cares!  None of these men are role models, nor should they have ever been.  You as parents should be your own childrens’ role models, not athletes or in James’ case a husband of famous but so-so actress.  Just because you are a lazy parent that does more for yourself than your child, it doesn’t mean that Tiger Woods should have been a role model for your child.  Besides, he is still the same great golfer that he was before we all found out about the cheating.  If anything, his game was a hell of a lot better when he had the mistresses and a very regular sex life.  Look at him now: no women, no game!  He needed them to stay great.

I could not believe the social media frenzy over Woods and James’ affairs.  Women in shock and disbelief posting questions all over Facebook, Twitter and other sites, asking why they would hurt their wives like that.  Believe it or not, I’ve gotten into some heated debates on Facebook with women over it, only to result with me being terminated as their friend.  I guess all women should think alike, otherwise this world will collapse as we know it.

I have also received emails from women that believe if Tiger Woods or Jesse James were Jewish, they would have never cheated!  Are you kidding me?  Are you really that naive or just plain stupid?  It doesn’t matter what faith, religion, culture or background you come from, there are some men that will have affairs no matter what.  I know plenty of Jewish men that have and will cheat again.  And you know the reason why?  Partially because they are married to annoying, bitchy, never putting out Jewish wives!  Yea, yea I am sure all you JAP’s are getting your Ipads ready to send me hate mail.  Don’t waste my time.  We all know that women are joining mens’ ranks as well, especially in the past decade.

Take a look at these so-called “Real Housewives” on Bravo.  Don’t you think that when a 25-year-old woman marries a man her Father’s age, even if he is a Millionaire, that at some point all that money and diamonds won’t be able to fulfill her in the bedroom?  Let’s move away from sex for a bit, what about just companionship in general; what could you possibly talk about with someone twice your age?  Music of the 50’s, whether Reagan was a better actor than a President, or about Eisenhower’s embarrassing U-2 incident?    How long does a bimbo in her early-twenties stay happy playing Monopoly every night, instead of out partying with men her age?  Not long, by some calculations, roughly six months.

I also have to talk about Ashley Madison site for a minute.  If you haven’t heard of it, feel free to check it out: http://www.ashleymadison.com  When I talk to random people about it, I get the same reaction every time: Its disgusting!  Really, why?  Because people are going to cheat no matter what, so a business genius by the name of  Noel Biderman decided to cash in on what’s already there, and that is disgusting to you?  I, on the other hand think he is an extremely smart individual, who saw a huge business opportunity in the idiots that are already cheating and/or going to cheat , and created a multi-million dollar company from it.  This is America people; where you can start any company you want.  Just because Ashley Madison makes it easier for people to find other like-minded individuals, it doesn’t necessarily mean Evil.  What about Craigslist and Myspace, or haven’t you known what married men have used that site for, well before Ashley Madison came around?

Mr. Biderman you are smarter than all of us combined, and thanks to all the Tiger Woods’ out there, now a lot richer too!  Mazel Tov!

Is Matchmaking a Mitzvah and how many are we supposed to accomplish in our lifetime?

Attending a wedding the other week of a couple that I introduced, made me think of the many Mitzvot that we are supposed to perform in our lifetime.  Having been somewhat of a Matchmaker since I was in high school, I had never really thought about it as a Mitzvah, or a good deed.  All I did was put two souls together, mainly because I had a feeling that they would like each other and hopefully build a life together.  But as I sat listening to the Cantor during the wedding talking about the Torah, and the significance of all of us performing a Mitzvah, my husband leaned closer and whispered: “I’m so proud, you made all this happen, yet another Mitzvah!”  To tell the truth, it caught me off guard, I had never thought of it that way.  My amateur matchmaking had always been a bit of a hobby, on the side of all my other “real” jobs.  And as my husband would say, a bit of an annoyance and hindrance to our personal life.

So as I started to ponder about all the people I introduced over the last fifteen years, and realized that a lot of them have continued to stay together, and in this case get married and start a family!  I had an epiphany!  I was doing a service to the world, I was performing a Mitzvah each time I matched a couple!  It only took me about fifteen years to come to this realization…  But, then again I am a bit of a slow learner.  Then more questions poured into my head…  Are we supposed to accomplish a certain number of good deeds in our lifetime?  Am I good now?  Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love matchmaking, especially when the two people hit it off and continue dating.  However, it does not come without its problems.

Some of my past “couples” are eager to share their first meeting with me, along with every detail of their dates after that with its ups and downs, leaving me wanting to “fix” the situation.  Others I hardly hear from again until I see a post on Facebook that they are getting married, which brings me to yet another thought.  There has to be some kind of an etiquette when it comes to using a matchmaker, especially my kind of a matchmaker, a.k.a the free kind!  If I introduced you two, and somewhere down the line you decide to get married, along with your first phone calls to Mothers, Fathers, Sisters and Brothers, shouldn’t I be in there somewhere well before Facebook, Shmacebook, Twitter and whatever else?  Is it just me or does something feel a little odd about having to find out on Facebook that the couple you set up is getting married?  Again, maybe its just me.

I also get my husband involved in it, which he happily goes along with screening people with me, trying to look for single and available bachelors at his work, gym, basketball league, etc…  Poor guy is so tired of me waking him up a 2 a.m., only to hear me squeal with excitement because I thought of a girl for my single guy!

So, going back to my original question: Is Matchmaking a Mitzvah?  And how many Mitzvot are we as human beings, and Jews are supposed to perform to be good with the man above?  Or does it not work that way in Judaism…